Wholistic Counselling

The aim of Wholistic Counselling is to raise awareness of the many different aspects within each person and to help the client to find and own his or her power so that we can live this life in this body to the fullest and connected to ourselves, each other, the earth and the invisible realms.
We live in a much out of balance society and even though we live in the lands of plenty, our souls are so often starving for the deep needs of belonging, feeling safe, accepted, acknowledged and whenever possible loved unconditionally... warts and all. Some people are born with the innate knowing of what they need to do in this life time and in this body to heal and balance themselves with the rest of the universe, while for others professional help can point them in the right direction. There are many paths into this centre of our being, but this is a journey we’re all asked to take if we want our species to continue living on the only home planet we have.

How things came to be that way

Let’s start with the basics: our lives are based on our experiences and they leave a feeling in the heart. We tell ourselves stories how life is meant to be lived depending on these stories. If we grew up in a family that mostly welcomed us and created safety for us while taking responsibility for their experiences and taught us to do the same with ours we were very lucky and the stories we tell ourselves are about safety, interconnectedness and personal power. If we experienced judgement, overbearing, control and other victimizing attitudes, if we were barely ever good enough, if we were not allowed to express our needs without feeling shamed, if learned to follow someone else’s expectations of what we are meant to do and who we are meant to be, well, our stories about life tell about these painful experiences and leave deep wounds in our hearts and deep holes in our souls. Our hearts and souls send us messages that all is not good inside, and so some of us cover up the pain by buying stuff or swallowing pills, but this only covers up the root cause and we continue to repeat these unconscious experiences over and over again... depression, anxiety, controlling, victimizing... from child to adult, and of course from parent to child... until someone breaks the vicious cycle, listens inside and starts to explore his or her stories and the experiences attached to these stories.
Here’s an example how a story comes into being: Dad sits in the living room, reading the paper while mom prepares supper. The little 1 ½ year old girl comes in and dad asks her to bring him a glass of water. Eagerly she runs to mom who fills a glass and gives it to her. With full concentration she walks toward daddy, but trips and spills the water. If dad is aware and present he gets up, helps the girl clean up and gives her a hug before she tries again. If dad is mentally absent or has never accepted anything but perfection, he may yell at her “you’re so clumsy, you’re just not good for anything... you can’t even carry a glass of water without spilling it.” Since this is not only a very painful experience for this girl but also an assault on her soul and her self image, she turns this experience into a story, the story that she’s not good for anything, and until she sees the lie in this story she will live by it and be clumsy and not good for anything... a self fulfilling prophecy that creates pain, suffering, disconnection, and depression. All this is passed down through the generations and the pain increases until someone dares to look at it and heal, or change it.
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Tools

During a Wholistic counselling session Marianne uses many different tools to sidestep the stories and to find the experience that caused the story. People are wounded in the heart, and so the healing must start in the heart too. Most people do not need to re-experience the original pain, and realizing that they were told a lie often brings tremendous relief, however it takes time to heal a life based on a dysfunctional premise and there are usually other feelings surfacing that need to be acknowledged before they are willing to be let go of.
Marianne uses regular counselling, guided visualisations, energy medicine tools like EFT (link), creative expression, like art, sound, movement, dream exploration and anything else that helps the client to go beyond the stories into the experience and then to create a new story that brings a deeper connection to the soul.
If clients are willing to engage in energy healing (link) the process can be faster, however, since we are dealing with soul, which is on soul time, it still is a process that can’t be rushed. Also, unless clients learn to take responsibility for their own experiences, stories and well being, healing will be slow, no matter what tools are being used.
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Results

People often experience a deeper sense of peace and feeling more and more at home in their bodies. Others – friends, family, co-workers, bosses - are less and less in charge of their lives as they discover more and more who they are and what their gifts and challenges are. Through bringing the past into consciousness it loses its power over the people on a healing path and one by one the past can be turned into major gifts to create a healthier and more balanced society.
Again, all this takes time, but in Marianne’s experience, the moment people start to experience the beauty of healing and balance they get kind of hooked and will not go back to the old and painful ways, but explore more and more how to own their own power.
And most of all, people in touch with their soul are automatically in touch with the soul of the earth and the universe... is there anything more important to do in these challenging times?
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